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Why can't we buy or sell a used carseat?

We have lots of carseats in our household, the inevitable result of having three little kids who have overlapped carseat needs at different times. I look at the ones we don't need any more, and they're basically in perfect condition. A bit dirty, but structurally they're perfect.

So why can't we buy or sell them legally?

Maybe it's just an oft-repeated myth that's become accepted as law, but when we talk to local charities about donating car seats, we're told that they can't accept them because the carseats might be damaged or have structural flaws.

Huh?

Look at even the cheapest carseat on the market and you'll instantly see that it's basically one big piece of injection molded plastic with some buckles, clips, a seatbelt and a cloth cover. So what could go wrong?

That is, if there was something wrong with a carseat, wouldn't it be immediately and overtly obvious? I mean, if you looked and there was a visible crack that let you prise the seat apart, or the seatbelt didn't click closed or one strap was dramatically frayed, obviously that's not something you'd want out there masquerading as a safety item for babies or children! Even if it's been in a car crash, let's face it - the seatbelt and the plastic isn't going to be damaged unless it's the most horrendous, terrible accident.

I can accept that if you don't have the original manual, you might not know the safest way to install the carseat for maximum safety, but with the Internet (and Google!) it's a no-brainer to get a replacement manual. Check out the beautiful Graco site as one example.

But nothing's that simple. What we are told is that it's illegal to sell used carseats or child safety seats, and that if you do have someone give one to you, you should immediately take it to the local fire station so they can inspect it for safety and integrity.

I just don't get it.

Anyone care to enlighten me?


Posted by Dave Taylor at July 31, 2005 5:23 PM
Comments

It's not illegal, I bought a used carseat fron a huge rummage sale that had the sherrif office as security. $30 with two bases. in nebraska

Posted by: L S at July 31, 2005 7:11 PM

It isn't illegal as far as I know, just not recommended. There could be problems that are not visible if the seat were in an accident or even just too old. Due to the heat and cold extremes many seats are exposed to by being in cars all the time, the plastic can start to break down after about 6 years. Also, many older seats have been recalled for various reasons or simply are not up to current safety standards. That said, if the seat is from someone you know and you can be assured it is fairly new and never been in an accident, I would take it. Lots of the standards are set up for people who may not be of average or above intelligence or for some other reason have impaired judgement. Sometimes those of us with common sense forget that not everyone has it. :)

Posted by: Katie at July 31, 2005 8:16 PM

Hmmm... so, again, I hear about 'plastic fatigue' but does it really happen after only six years? And most car seats I've seen are made out of pretty darn heavy plastic, not just a thin "veneer".

Posted by: Dave Taylor at July 31, 2005 8:28 PM

Nearly 3 years ago I was in a car accident - hit a gaurdrail on the interstate during a light rain. I was able to drive away, myself & two kids in carseats were fine, but had extensive damage to the front end. I replaced the carseats even though they looked perfect- who knows what damage or 'weakening' was done to them that I couldn't see with the naked eye? Would you trust those seats? You bend a stick once and it doesn't break; bend it again and it does break because it was weakened by your first attempt. Better safe than sorry. I also destroyed the old seats - I didn't want them ending up in a yard sale or thrift store.

I've never heard that it's illegal to buy or sell a used carseat - only that it's not wise. It's not personal, but the people/organization you try to donate a used seat to can't trust what you or anyone else says about the seats history.

Posted by: Susan at July 31, 2005 9:54 PM

Seeing how my kids plastic toys wear out and break, yes, I do believe that plastic breaks down. And I would have to believe that given how hot it gets in closed up vehicles in the summer, that would have an effect on the speed of it. I doubt the extreme cold winters where I live help either. Someone in a more moderate climate than I could probably assume that their seat would be safe longer than I can. There's that pesky common sense again. :)

Posted by: Katie at August 1, 2005 7:14 AM

The primary reason I've always heard/read about as to why you shouldn't buy used car seats is that they may have been involved in a recall that you don't know about. Also, the plastic and other non-metal parts certainly do age do to exposure to ultraviolet rays and heat. In some parts of the country the inside of a car can routinely reach 140+ degrees F in the summer.

Posted by: Daniel at August 1, 2005 8:45 AM

Excessive exposure to UV (the sun) can break down plastics. All kinds of things can be spilled on the plastic and belt webbing that can damage and weaken them - although they clean OFF the belt and leave no visual damage.

Car seats are generally cheap - it's an inexpensive piece of insurance to buy a new one. And basic good liability protection for charities to refuse old ones. If they distribute NEW ones they can basically tell them to sue the manufacturer, distributing used ones makes the issue harder to define who is liable.

Posted by: Rootman at August 1, 2005 9:36 AM

Susan replaced two car seats after a minor accident due to a worry that they might not be as effective.

Susan (or anyone else): When was the last time you had your seatbelts replaced? After an accident they could be weakened. Over time they could degrade due to temperature extremes and UV.

Obviously most people don't replace them, as there isn't a need. How often do you hear of a problem from a used or old car seat? Rarely.

It's like mad-cow disease. It's a non-issue. Sure, you deal with it and limit it's impact, but you don't blow it out of proportion. There have only been about 250 people who got a disease linked to mad-cow. You are by *far* more likely to be killed (not just struck) by lightning.

If it's only an issue of liability, then there isn't an issue as long as the person who gets the used car seat acknowledges that fact and also acknowledges it's their responsibility to have the seat inspected.

Posted by: Anonymous at August 1, 2005 11:54 PM

It's probably just a case of "better to be safe than sorry." You know somebody would sue the charity if something happened. Just the world we live in...

Posted by: Jason Berggren at August 2, 2005 5:52 AM

Hate to inform most people of the world here, but automotive seatbelts should be replaced anytime you have had an accident. The material is engineered with a stress absorbing stretch to it. They are not elastic, so once stretched, lose the ability to dissipate the stresses borne in an accident.

If you've had an impact strong enough to leave welts and bruises under the belt, the belts have stretched and should be replaced. As to child's car seats, unless they have styrofoam type shock absorbtion, they are more likely to be reusable after an accident than the belts that restrain them.

Posted by: martinelli at August 2, 2005 9:02 AM

The car seats do come with an expiry date. After which the manufacture states that it will not accept any liabilty after that date. (This is the usuall reason for expiriy dates on certain processed foods too!)

So an injury of an infant in a carseat that you gave away with an expired date would result in you being sued. The new owners acknoledgement of the "used" status would only reduce damages.

So you should destroy, sell or give away carseats before the expiry date. Unless you have no assests or income and are therefore lawsuit proof.

Posted by: DCA at August 2, 2005 10:09 AM

whoever said carseats are cheep must have a lot of disposable income. I don't call $150.00 "cheep"

Posted by: L S at August 2, 2005 10:26 AM

LS: Car seats can be found at Wal-Mart or Target for as low as $40. You can also go on craigslist.com and find ones that people barely used for low prices. Most all counties in the U.S. have hospitals that offer car seats for sale for less than $40. So car seats are, relatively speaking, for the amount of benefit you get, cheap.

Anonymous: not to get off topic, but you should look into a book called Our Cannibals, Ourselves at the chapter about mad cow. Check your premises and assumptions at the door.

To Dave Taylor: the nonprofits won't take them because if the seats are recalled or damaged in a nonvisible manner, they could be held liable for any accident that is caused by the seat's failure. It's the same for resale shops and such. I've both bought and sold car seats through eBay and Craigslist without any problems.

Posted by: ALH at August 2, 2005 11:13 AM

I had a new infant car seat when my daughter was born but I had a neighbor give me the toddler seat and I have been using it ever since reluctantly. I didn't know about the concerns of used carseats but I had worries. I looked at buying a new seat but we are in the city and use public transportation or walk most of the time so I put it out of my mind thinking I was worrying needlessly. Reading this has made me want to buy a new one though. I would rather be safe that sorry.

Posted by: Nedra Zeall at August 5, 2005 1:48 PM

Has anyone ever heard of an organization who donates used car seats to parents in foreing countries?

Trisha

Posted by: Trisha at August 6, 2005 4:32 PM

The inside of a seat is usually just Styrofoam. Like a bicycle helmet, they are designed to crack on impact, to absorb shock. It is possible for a car seat's Styrofoam to get cracked -- with no visible exterior signs -- from a collision as slow as 5 m.p.h.

Additionally, seats are dated, something like seven years. After that date, the seat should be disposed of. I don't know the particulars, but count on it being a safety-related reason.

NEVER buy a car seat used unless you know it was never in any form of collision and trust the word of the seller with your child's life... and that the seat is rated for use through the time period you expect to use it. And that the seat hasn't been recalled.

I'm all for being frugal, but car seats are something best purchased new.

Posted by: AJ at August 7, 2005 9:51 PM

Here is the government's take on when to reuse a child safety seat, recently revised to be a bit more liberal. IMHO, they are too accommodating on the issue, but there ya go. Bottom line, you still are trusting the seller with your child's life.

http://www.nhtsa.dot.gov/people/injury/childps/ChildRestraints/ReUse/RestraintReUse.htm

Posted by: AJ at August 7, 2005 10:01 PM

The most logical thing I have been told is that the carseats are made to withstand wear and tear and collisions of course for a certain period of time. An infant carry carseat is made to withstand about a year's worth of use. So, if Baby 1 uses this carseat for a year and then Baby 2 uses same seat for another year and then you pass it on to Baby 3, that carseat has been in action for 3 years! When it was only designed to withstand wear and tear for 1 year! Same goes for other types of carseats, they are designed to last a specific period of time. They just weren't designed to hold up to unlimited use.

Posted by: mommyof2 at August 18, 2005 5:34 PM

I used to work for a charity that collected donated goods and sold them to Value Village (a used goods and clothing store). All baby paraphanalia (not clothing) and things like car seats, high chairs, cribs was pitched into the dumpster and not sold. Value Village was scared of the liability issues involved.

Posted by: Marc Erickson at September 14, 2005 7:54 PM

While wanting my children to be safe, I can't help suspecting that carseat manufacturers are onto a good thing with their "expiry dates" ! What a great way to generate income. Call me cynical.
My current problem with carseats is that, with the addition of baby #3, it's very difficult to comply with carseat legislation. We can't afford to, or even want to replace our station wagon with something even bigger, but fitting an infant seat and two boosters in the back is VERY fiddly. All those seats have such wide bases. Are there any "slimfit" models out there that anyone knows about? Then I WOULD be tempted to spend $$$ on new ones. The baby is currently using the same seat I got for my soon-to-be-six-year-old.

Posted by: Kate Weaver at June 3, 2006 6:41 PM

Our local sheriff's department offers safety inspections of car seats to make sure they are up to code and installed correctly. Definately worth looking into.

Posted by: Rex at June 27, 2007 9:56 PM

A couple of years back, I looked into starting a non-profit (charity) for used car seats. Preferrably those whose state law requires they need them prior to bringing home new born infants at the hospitals.

My only suggestion, in 2007, would be to check the major search engines for current research and updates, then your local city/state officials. You always want the safety of your child to supercede the value of a dollar.

-CLS

Posted by: Sailor at July 22, 2007 10:44 AM

I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW IF THERE IS A WAY TO RECYCLE THE OLD OUT DATED CAR SEATS. IF NOT WHY? I THINK SOMEONE SHOULD COME UP OF A WAY TO DO THIS. GRIND THEM OR MELT THEM DOWN AND THE PLASTIC PUT BACK INTO ANOTHER CAR SEAT OR SOMETHING ELSE USEFULL.

Posted by: COZETTE at September 20, 2007 1:48 PM

The question of legality depends on the state you are in. (if the seat was in an accident...hard to prove)I just came across the California law regarding the "sale of used car seats." Here what it states...
Child Passenger Restraint System: Prohibition Against Resale After Accident


27362.1. (a) No individual may sell or offer for sale a child passenger restraint system that was in use by a child during an accident involving a motor vehicle.

(b) A violation of this section shall be punished by a fine of one hundred dollars ($100).

Added Sec. 2, Ch. 703, Stats. 2002. Effective January 1, 2003

Posted by: kathryn thurman at December 24, 2007 8:22 AM

First of all Police and Fire department personal don't always know how to install car seats, most are not actually or propery trained. They are not capable of "inspecting" a car seat any more than you are.

""If you've had an impact strong enough to leave welts and bruises under the belt, the belts have stretched and should be replaced. As to child's car seats, unless they have styrofoam type shock absorbtion, they are more likely to be reusable after an accident than the belts that restrain them.""
Whether the seats had styrofoam or not it needs to be replaced due to the strain on the plastic as well as the harness. If you have to replace your seatbelt why not the harness.

$150.00 for a car seat is a good price, even $300.00. You're buying something that lasts six years. An infant seat can be used for the next child, if you have one, and you don't even have to buy an infant seat, you could just buy an convertible seat. $150.00 is too much money for the life of your child? It's funny how people complain it's too much money for car seats yet keep popping out kids. Or buy all sorts of electonics, cigarettes, clothes (in excessive) Have 30-40000 cars, but 150.00 for a car seat is too much???

Mommyto2 please research before you say something, you may have scared a few moms out there. Infants seats are not made to expire after a year. They are made of the same quality plastic as any other car seat. They are made to hold a child up to about a year so the child has a proper fitting car seat. They also have a 6 year expiry date.

On a last note there are some states that recycle old car seats and it is illegal in some states to sell used/expired car seats.

Car seats are not an investment, you don't buy them, then try to make a profit after it's old and expired. Most of you who do try to do that would most likely NOT buy something like that for your own child.

Posted by: al at September 13, 2008 2:39 PM

I was in a moderate wreck several years ago with an installed but unused carseat. The damage done was minimal and fairly difficult to see unless you really looked for - just hairline cracks along the beltpath that could only be seen in bright light.

It's hard to just toss something that still seems to have some life left in it - even us carseat "freaks" feel sick doing it sometimes.

The important thing to remember is that until you get in a wreck - it's just a seat. Just because it looks like it would still make a good seat doesn't mean it will still work to restrain a child in a crash. And you don't know until it's too late.

Another aspect of the problem goes beyond looking up the carseat manual online, particularly if you're talking about a charity accepting carseats. It would involve a lot of work and effort to look up each and every carseat that comes in, find the manual, check it for recalls, check for missing parts, and look for damage. I'm sure there are plenty of donated carseats that are still perfectly safe, but most charities don't have the manpower to sort out the sellable seats.

Posted by: Defrost at September 13, 2008 4:44 PM

dh works in the sign industry as a vacuum form technician. he works with plastic, all day everyday. he is more of a carseat freak than me makeing sure they get changed and what-not. the one thing that he mentioned was the temperature differences makes the plastic weak. even signs show wear during the summer. they "sag" if it gets too hot, especially if the sign isn't embossed. so in my non-plastic savvy mind, if it can get that hot outside to do that to a sign, what happens to a carseat over the years in the car since it gets so hot in the car.

Posted by: melinda at September 17, 2008 2:33 PM

so what does one do with an old car seat? if you cant sell it, it's too old, or been in an accident.

throw it in the landfill ?

Nice!

Posted by: ristau5741 at January 3, 2009 1:53 PM

The State of California did testing a number of years back on carseats that had been involved in accidents. Many of these seats included visible damage from the original collision including bent latches. In the tests, NOT ONE seat failed in a second accident. These seats are stronger than you'd think, and in reality will last far longer than the expiration date. Manufacturers just don't keep testing or supporting products past the expiration date because they don't want the liability. They also want to sell more seats! Resale shops are concerned about liability as well. The biggest danger from carseats is mis-use including not having the straps adjusted properly or not having the seat securely attached to the car.

Posted by: anonymous at March 12, 2009 11:57 AM

Shouldn't there be a warning label(expiration) on the car seats so the consumer could be aware of this? I just bought 2 car seats used and cannot find and expiration date or warning anywhere. What about parents who use the same seat over the years for 2 or 3 children in a span of 6 years How do they know it could be unsafe?

Posted by: charlene at March 21, 2009 7:16 AM

I bought a new (& expensive) convertible car seat for my daughter who just turned 1. I also purchased her infant seat new. For those who think a new seat isn't worth it, think about what you could be losing. I'd rather eat ramen for a couple of months than chance that my daughter could be seriously injured in a crash. It comes down to what you're willing to do for the safety of your child. I'm trying to figure out what to do with her old seat, but I'm not going to make any parent fret over a used seat if I wasn't going to subject my daughter to one either. As far as the materials the seat is made of, tests done on seats from crashes, heat stress, etc., I want proof. I want the actual test info, the articles, websites, etc. Pardon me if I'm not just going to take your word for it! I live in AZ, & when it's 115 degrees outside and 140+ in my car, I'm not risking my daughter's life on heat-stressed plastic or whatever just because a bunch of people tell you it's okay!

Posted by: Erin at March 21, 2009 2:22 PM

Now,what is the rule on store, specifically online stores, selling car seats, do they have to sell one that was manufactured in the current year? I Hope so! If I am buying a car seat online, I want to know what it was recently manufactured so that I get my full 6 years or whatever it is out of it!
Also, I am bummed I have to buy a new car seat because the one my older son outgrew is expired this yr, so my newest son could be in danger.. and I agree with some people, it looks perfectly fine and hasn't been in any accidents.. but the alternative thought- losing my child- is horrible... top it off, I have twins, have to buy two new ones!

Posted by: Dianne at April 10, 2009 10:20 AM

I am currently trying to resell the infant car seat that my daughter outgrew in just 7 months. This car seat cost a small fortune and didn't get a lot of wear and tear, since we mostly used my hubby's car and a hand me down car seat from my sister. It's a shame these car seats can't be recertified somewhere to save future parents a buck. I am a first-time mommy, but I figured out quick that the baby after-market is the place to shop if you don't want to spend a fortune on things your baby will outgrow in 2-3 months!

Posted by: Carla at April 17, 2009 9:13 PM

The one thing everyone has overlooked is not only the quality of the car seat, but that it is properly installed in the car. You can have the newest, most expensive car seat, but it's not going to do anything if it's not installed properly (ie-tilt, tightness, etc). Many fire departments and police departments check and/or install for free.

Posted by: Concerned_Mom at July 2, 2009 10:15 AM

Manufacturers should have to take back the used car seat WITH its clearly marked and nonremovable date of manufacture. They could also give a credit slip toward another purchase and end the problem for consumers. Half the cost must go into liability insurance!

Posted by: El at July 5, 2009 6:45 PM

the question still remains ..what do i do of my used car seat ,which is still in good condition.Throwing it in thrash is not an option for me.

Posted by: rachna at August 2, 2009 10:38 PM

I am certified to install car seats through SafeKids. I usually tell parents to get rid of them but if you can't bring yourself to throw it away, you could always donate it to the local chapter of Safekids. When we are certified, we have to practice on many different types of seats. I would highly discourage using any seat that has been used by someone that you don't know. If you get a seat from a family member or friend, at least you know the history of the seat. Accidents do cause damage that isn't visible. Many seats that have been brought to me to install that were used, have passed their expiration date. One seat even had a date of 1989! The safety standards for seats are continually changing. A seat made 7 years ago would not pass the saftey testing and requirements that currents seats are held to. I would like to encourage everyone to have their seats checked because atleast 95% of seats I check are incorrect in some way. This service is always free at fire stations and ambulance companies, however donations are appreciated to fund this important service.

Posted by: Tracey at September 17, 2009 11:39 AM

Since you can't sell it... and you can't give it to charity... and you no longer have a use for it... then pitch it in a recycle bin.

Perhaps the manufacturers should include recycling labels on the products. It's the least they could do after successfully lobbying for a series of laws (based on questionable science) that force parents to buy more and more of their products.

Posted by: C Thomas at February 3, 2010 10:55 AM

I'm sorry, isn't your child's life worth it? I agree, they get expensive but they are an investment. An investment in your child's future and their quality of life. Most insurance company's will cut you a check to buy new seats if they were in use during a crash.
PLEASE do not sell expired seats, even if they were only used for a fraction of their usable life. Or seats that have been in accidents or mishandled outside of vehicles. Cut the straps out of the seat if you can't turn it in to a recycling facility. Write crashed on it. Trade it in to Babies R Us for a 25% off coupon.
And don't wash the harness straps, the webbing is like your vehicles seat belts, washing them can compromise their ability to perform in a crash.
If you honestly know the history of a seat and it is safe/unexpired, then go ahead and list it on ebay or craigslist. Charities and consignment shops cannot sell used seats due to liabilities and in some states, the law.

Posted by: VRFowler at February 3, 2010 8:13 PM
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 • Kitty etiquette question...
 • Does anyone have an MP3 version of "Parenting with Love and Logic"?
 • Innovation: A stuffed animal with a built-in pacifier?
 • Ah, I screwed up: How would you resolve the problem?
 • The kids definitely say "Happy Hannukah!"
 • Is there such a thing as "REM motion"?
 • Very cool job: Executive Director of the Men's Leadership Alliance
 • Should children face their fears, or avoid scary stuff?
 • Michael Medved and I are pretty aligned on favorite films
 • Yech! Men never wash their hands in the bathroom!
 • Fun magazine for 2-5 year olds: Tessy & Tab Reading Club
 • Do most kids actually eat all the Halloween candy they get?
 • Custody and separation: Where do the children play?
 • How to deal with the no-TV versus TV parents?
 • Lots of TV viewing correlated with ADD. Well, duh.
 • Dress up as a "dementor", screw up your soul forever
 • Of classes and birthday party invitations...
 • Finally, school starts up!
 • Why is that name so familiar? The serendipity of blogging
 • True confession: I prefer English candy bars too
 • Family game night? Our take on some of the best...
 • Are we the lone holdouts from the Nintendo generation?
 • Is "Agents for Home Buyers" a Real Estate Scam?
 • Is it possible to set nursing boundaries without actually weaning?
 • Cosleeping, Age Appropriateness and Nudity
 • Life in the 'burbs: babysitter poker?
 • We heard back from Norwegian Cruise Lines. Sorta
 • Back from holiday, drowning in bad juju?
 • Of videotaping school plays and burning DVDs
 • The dark side of our Norwegian Star cruise: embarkation and disembarkation
 • General Pace says homosexuality is immoral. So?
 • Of Food, Norovirus and Excursions on our Norwegian Star Cruise...
 • Our Norwegian Star Cruise to the Mexican Riviera
 • Do kids in Waldorf schools start reading too late?
 • Do News Stories About Breastfeeding Help or Hinder?
 • Do you have to breastfeed to be an attachment parent?
 • Internet access and cell phone service on the Norwegian Star?
 • Best foods to help kids get to sleep
 • Today was the Day From Hell with our 2yo
 • Adventures in Weather: The Blizzard of 2006
 • Why I don't like gift cards as presents
 • Nursing, Breast pumps, and travel plans
 • Do you ever lie to your kids?
 • Can't get her kids to sleep, she needs help!
 • Children maturing too fast? Control their media exposure
 • Can breastfeeding and formula-feeding moms remain friends?
 • Should younger children say "sorry" after doing something wrong?
 • How do you deal with aging, sick dogs?
 • Japanese "Gender Equality" minister opposes maiden names?
 • We Survived Chickenpox!
 • The flower fairy waits for no-one
 • Does Mom's Diet Affect the Quality of Breastmilk?
 • Kids don't need to know how to program computers
 • I thought we'd eliminated DDT, but ...
 • Fun holiday activities: bicycling and bowling
 • Why does it take lawsuits for companies to listen?
 • Got a cute book about breastfeeding
 • How to avoid overscheduling your children
 • We must be the only parents who dislike Tinker Bell
 • In-dash DVD players for cars gain in popularity? Are they insane?
 • Do your kids need more exercise?
 • The secret to happy moms: plastic surgery?
 • Where can I buy our kids new ears?
 • Banning cell phones in cars: good idea or bad?
 • 80% of children under two watch HOW much media per day?
 • Children's Tylenol with Flavor Creator: Drug or Candy?
 • Trapped with abusive parent in airplane for five hours!
 • Journaling the Joys and Fears of Pregnancy, A Workshop
 • Why do so many people use F$#@$# obscenities?
 • Disney Mobile: The first innovation out of Disney in a long time
 • Wal*Mart expands into natural and organic foods
 • Who knew blacksmith work was so darn fun?
 • Who buys this stuff for their kids?
 • Driving with a whiny baby must be the third circle of Hell
 • My daughter the knitting machine!
 • Learn how to swim in a spa?
 • Distance needed between doctors and Big Pharma?
 • Ways to know whether your infant could be teething
 • Teach your baby sign language
 • Why don't companies stick behind their products? Maclaren Strollers, Inc.
 • What happened to quality control with toys?
 • Could we all just buy a bit less each year?
 • Coke and Pepsi: Liability from selling soda in schools?
 • Acupuncture for Children and Adults
 • I survived my day at the zoo with five 9yo girls!
 • Why comic books aren't so terrible for kids
 • Kids as philosophers, or finding meaning in skeeball
 • What would happen to your children if you died?
 • When did Halloween become so darn dangerous?
 • Why it's foolish to underestimate your children
 • One big reason we don't take our kids to the movie theater
 • Of cheating spouses and spanking parents
 • Research shows prolonged crying lowers IQ in babies
 • Why are ex-husbands sometimes such jerks?
 • Why we don't hit our kids
 • Is there anything cuter than baby talk?
 • Can children survive without corn syrup?
 • 5yo boy + pair of scissors = scary haircut!
 • Don't forget to tell your kids you love them!
 • "Amazing Amanda" crushes imagination with servos and RFID
 • Jury duty scam leads to identity theft
 • The lure of being single again?
 • A curious travel question: irons in hotel rooms?
 • EPA tacitly endorses testing pesticides on children?
 • What is Attachment Parenting?
 • Why can't we buy or sell a used carseat?
 • An Ethical Dilemma: Someone in your school is a registered sex offender?
 • FTC touts kids see fewer TV ads selling food, but the study is predictably bogus
 • I'm proud of my sister's beautiful art!
 • Avoiding work at home scams
 • Bras designed for girls growing up fast
 • Babies have personalities!
 • Those darn too long days of summer
 • Breast is still best, even if it's Dad's??
 • Travel tips for families this summer
 • How Computers Make Our Kids Stupid
 • Why parents associate summer with spending
 • Dave's secret trick for calming a hysterical child
 • Sometimes being right is far less important than just having fun
 • Warning: never let your baby play with the phone!
 • Parenting as talking to a brick wall?
 • Another of those "only a parent would laugh" moments
 • My journey to becoming an Attachment Parenting Dad
 • Should a man wear a wedding ring?
 • An AP parent on the benefit of no-media children
 • The perfect washer, or social engineering at its worst?
 • Take your Parents to School Day?
 • First week of weight gain sets lifelong weight patterns? I don't think so.
 • EPA cancels pesticide tests on Floridian babies
 • Standing your ground with discipline
 • Jack Welch says: forget it. You can't balance business and personal life
 • PBS introduces "PBS Kids Sprout" a new digital babysitter
 • Why are kid-friendly bathrooms so hard to find?
 • When does bedtime become other than a nightmare?
 • The Little Boy and the Monkeys: Children's picture book, needs pictures....
 • More schools are saying "no" to brands and logos
 • Why do so many men cheat on their spouses?
 • What's the toughest thing about being a father?
 • Breastfeeding and the Law
 • Waldorf Schools and the challenge of values-based organizations
 • We'll help you pick a great baby name!
 • How come parents never talk about parenting?
 • Another reason to be suspicious of parenting book authors
 • Scholastic succumbs to the siren song of corporate sponsorship of education
 • What would you suggest to this tired Mom?
 • What dreams have you dreamt today?
 • Vaccinations and the fear of getting sick
 • The challenge of being The Toy Police during the Holidays
 • Eventually, just about every kid has homework
 • The essence of good toys
 • Giving up on Privacy as part of Parenting
 • Five million reasons per year to discourage your kids from smoking
 • ... And on Halloween, the Candy Fairy Visited Our House!
 • A house full of sick children
 • More Dads are spending more time with their children
 • Are all children inveterate collectors?
 • How loud is too loud? How much should children be protected?
 • A Conference to Attend: Waldorf in the Home
 • Our long-term birth control option of choice: a vasectomy
 • What's one word that never shows up in parenting books?
 • Kindergarten Boarding School
 • Breastfed babies make happier adults?
 • Is Your Adoption Agency Legit?
 • Coming soon: Articles from "The Compleat Mother"
 • Father's Day and the Conundrum of Modern Economics
 • The real challenge of cosleeping: bed space!
 • Happy Mother's Day?
 • Update on bicycles and training wheels
 • Win a $25 Amazon Gift Certificate for adding a link!
 • When is a baby too young for a stroller?
 • A key attachment parenting virtue: patience
 • Taxes, Money and Debt. The big three?
 • A biological reason for teen laziness?
 • Is a toy without a microchip heresy?
 • Can't get your baby immobilized at night? Now there's a solution
 • Google likes Shining Light Books
 • Dealing with irrational fears
 • New Babies and Baby Names
 • Happy New Year!
 • Things really do unfold when it's time
 • Safe Surfing for Your Children
 • The Ebbs and Flows of Attachment Parenting
 • Sometimes you get a brief glimpse of what will be...
 • Funny Waldorf Lightbulb Jokes
 • Australian debate on breastfeeding
 • Scary bike accident, resilient children
 • A week of firsts...
 • Attachment Parenting Thought for the week
 • The Joy of Consistency
 • More on rhythms and summertime
 • The importance of schedules, even in the summer
 • "Eating your own dogfood"
 • Strategies pay off, sometimes
 • Chaos is sure to ensue!
 • When they're not ready to sleep...
 • Sleep Deprivation: The Essential Attachment Parenting Experience
 • Welcome Aboard!